Who is your Crush?
Wait, you don’t have to tell us this- keep it to yourself. Rather than telling us who your crush is, the answer is this – how often do you start a conversation with your crush?
Let’s admit it, starting a conversation with your crush is pretty hard. You get nervous, your palms get sweaty, your knees weak, your arms get heavy and you start to sweat a bucket. Even if your crush is someone you know quite well, once her status changes from “someone you know” to “someone you crush on” the nervousness strikes hard.
This is an issue for every unmarried single people of Nepal – which is a lot of people. So if you are among those who have a hard time talking to your crush, we are here for you. Here we have __ tips on how to start a conversation with your crush.
1) Know their interests
While this may seem simple it is an important step if you want to start a conversation with your crush. The good part about this is that it’s not really a hard thing to do with all of the social media out there. Surely s/he must be in some form of social media.
Even if s/he isn’t one of those who are on social media, you surely have a few common friends between the two of you, how else would you know him/her? We don’t mean to say “Stalk her/him” but you should get to know what s/he is interested in and be well informed on that so you have a topic on which you could start your conversation with your crush.
2) Befriend their friends
We have already covered a bit of this previously but make his/her friends your friends as well. This way you will have more chances to talk with him/her. If you are on a completely different social group, at least make sure that both of your social group is connected in one way or another.
Him/her knowing that you are good enough to be friends with his/her friends will be a huge plus point for you and will make it easier to start a conversation with your crush, There will be that innate second-degree trust in you if you know his/her friends. Plus you can always talk about one of his/her friends as well.
3) Follow them on social media
Following them on social media has a few benefits. Firstly it gives you an opportunity to strike a conversation on them without meeting them personally. Second of all, it will make it easier for you to see what they are interested in based on whom they follow and what they share. And the third benefit is that you will get to see how their life is going on.
Besides this, if you see anything that reminds you of her (not the cringy “the most beautiful girl/guy” but instead some random non-offensive funny ones) you can share it with them by casually saying that it reminded you of her/him. If s/he has a bit of humor and isn’t taken s/he is sure to respond with a haha react or heck might even start a conversation with you.
Just don’t feel sad if your message gets ignored. There are people who do this just to lead you on or when they are not interested in you.
4) Help them when they need some
And when we say this we don’t mean in an “I helped you so you owe me a conversation” manner. When s/he is asking for some help or when you know that s/he is in some trouble just casually text her/him asking trouble is and casually help her/him as much as you can with genuine intentions.
Just remember this s/he doesn’t owe you anything for you helping them – it was you who volunteered. But this will create a good impression of you on them which will make them easier to trust you more. This also means that it will be easier to ask for their help when you need some and easier to start a conversation with your crush as well – it’s a matter of trust and comfort.
5) Take care of yourself in general
Noone loves people who don’t take care of themselves. So if you want to start a conversation with your crush, remember that you first have to take care of yourself and be someone s/he will want to talk to. Take care of your health, your looks, and your own life in general.
Be that dependable person you want others to be. If s/he sees that s/he can rely on you via social media or in real life, it will be easier to start a conversation with your crush. Just be sure that you are doing this for yourself and not just to get their attention.
6) Don’t force it
This is probably the most important thing that you need to note when it comes to starting a conversation with your crush. Let the talk come naturally and don’t for the conversation. It may seem hard but if the two of you are in the same social group or in a social group that ofter interconnects, be it online or in real life, the chances for you to talk naturally should come rather often.
Don’t be awkward and don’t force the words. Let it come naturally. If it doesn’t come naturally, maybe it is not the right moment to start a conversation with him/her.
The gist of all of these is that, if you want to start a conversation with your crush, you first have to know her interests and be in a situation where both of you interact in a casual way. It may be in a group chat online or in a group meeting in real life. Besides this, both of you may be in the same class or group in a workplace.
Along with this, it is important to not force the conversation. But that being said make sure that your crush is not taken or someone who is known for playing with people. In such cases, start looking at someone new before your feelings develop too deep. If not, the only thing that will wait for you at the end of the tunnel is a big load of heartbreak
Hope you found this helpful. If you have any suggestions for us, do let us know in the comments. And as always, thank you for reading till the end.