In every relationship we have an expectation from our partner, probably we wanted to spend our life together, and we may had some planning for our future. Well, everything is about us and ours. But breakup is when the relationship ends suddenly and every commitments and promises are broken.
We feel like our future has become uncertain and suddenly there is an emotional fallout. We are forced to give up on something that we don’t want to.
But we need to know that the end of relationship is not the end of life. And if we are stuck in “how come”, “what if”, then we are never going to move on. We should not neglect to be happiness of present and future by dwelling in our past.
Even I have been through a painful breakup so I know that getting over the painful breakup is difficult. There is a cliché that we can get over a relationship in a week but why should we waste that much time to dwell in our past. So these tips will help you move on and get over your breakup fast.
1.Acceptance of the fact about the end of relationship:
Even if you did not end the relationship do not start wondering about what you have done wrong and avoid second guessing yourself. The end of a relationship is for a good reason and you will have to accept it and start fresh.
2. Give a bit of a time for yourself:
It’s okay to give yourself some time, you don’t have to get over it right away. Pushing yourself too hard may harm you than doing well. We should accept the fact that everything takes time to heal along with relationships.
3. Your anger and hatred should be replaced with gratitude:
Don’t hold grudges, no matter what happened in your relation. When emotion is high, we do get hurt and make mistakes. Don’t tell everyone that you’re ex is a bad person and make your ex feel you still hold over it. Be thankful for the lesson that you have learned and let go of those negative feeling. Your possibilities of future love and happiness needs to be embraced.
4. Find yourself again and realize what you actually want to be:
Well, a breakup means that you have the time to find yourself again. Which means you can spoil yourself, maybe by watching our favorite TV shows, cooking our favorite meals, going out for dinner or movie with our friend. Now, it’s all about you and it’s the perfect time to analyze yourself.
5. Have fun with your friends and find your support circle:
Being in a relationship means you spend a lot of time with your partner. This means that you lose your touch with yourself and your friends. But now you can spend a quality time with your friends. Spend catching up this time and spending your time together but don’t waste this time taking about your ex.
6. You should rededicate yourself with your hobbies and passion:
Your hobbies may have fallen to a sideway by spending too much time with your ex. Relationship does take a lot of time from us and we lose our interest in our hobbies and all or we may not have the time for it. But this is the right time for you to rediscover hobbies and become more of the person who you once used to be.
7. You can work out which may take your mind off the negativity:
Trust me working our takes off all your problems in the best way. You can go for a run after your work or in the morning. You may join a gym, where you can interact with new people and it will also add a bonus for you to get in shape.
8. Don’t think about your ex and whenever you think keep a track:
It may sound weird but this works. Because you can actually see on the paper that the thoughts are going less and less, by breaking out whenever the thoughts come. Just in some days you will see the decrease in thought about that person.
9. Involve yourself with positive thoughts:
One of the toughest thing is a cycle of negative thoughts after relationship. You can put some effort to not think about the negative past but the positive future. For this you can watch some motivational videos, talk to your families and friends.
10. You are amazing and you deserve a real love; just recognize your self-worth:
Among all above this is the most important tip. You are not a failure just because of the end of the relation. There are many stories about failed relations and each one gets over their past. And you should also remember that you are an interesting and an amazing person. Just because one relation did not workout does not means everything is Over. There are many other people who are waiting to meet you. You must excite yourself for the possibilities and enjoy your life.